Tuesday, 21 September 2010

Live joyfully with the wife whom you love….. Ecclesiastes 9:9

Good morning Barbie’s and Kens!

Ladies and gentlemen boys and girls welcome! I hope you all had a splendid weekend, got plenty of rest and feel fresh and ready for the week ahead!
It certainly feels good to be back! The last few weeks have been very hectic and exciting for me! And i am grateful to God for all the wonderful opportunities he has thrown my way. if you haven't said thank you to God today take a second and do so!
My last post was in July (embarrassed face)and I feel awful but there was a very good reason why I haven’t posted a blog.

101 reasons why I haven’t posted a blog, or abandoned my blog as one of my faithful readers stated. Here’s there list.
Dear reader’s the only reason why I haven’t blogged for over 4weeks is BECAUSE MY LAPTOP PACKED UP! I was upset, extremely frustrated and I almost threw it out the window! excuses i hear you say? but that’s the truth and only reason. I will endeavour to find alternative ways of posting my blogs, moving on swiftly.

My journey into work this morning was shockingly smooth! No delays whatsoever! No weirdo’s jumping in the tracks, etc. I got on the train and as soon as I found a seat I pulled out my book and continued reading. Yet another amazing read and I will recommend it to all see the SUCCESSFUL FOLKS READ SECTION WHICH I WILL UPDATE SHORTLY.
I arrived at the office put on my computer, scanned through my emails briefly, organised my to do list, and as usual made my cup of tea. first few emails were the usual requests for work to be done, another 10 marked urgent review which i did look at. i then proceeded to the Word for today, henceforth reefed to as WFT FOLDER  opened the mail from UCB word for today which I encourage you all to read! I am always eager and excited to read the word for today, simply because each day I learn something new. WORD FOR TODAY

The title: Marriage Rights….Live joyfully with the wife whom you love...

I am yet to go through a day where I don’t hear people (myself included) talk about marriage and weddings. Uncles, aunts, grandparents, colleagues, friends, frenemies, parents, (the list is endless) all asking and talking about the same thing MARRIAGE.
It’s currently a hot trend and the way some folks go on about it, like it is a must have fashion accessory! As we all know, well for those who do but need clarity and for those who didn't Marriage and THE Wedding so to speak are two different things! A lot of folks I won’t categorise so I don’t get bombarded with hate mail talk about it (what is it? I will elaborate later) is it the marriage or the wedding?
Am assuming that most of us have watched the movie why did I get married 1&2, if you haven’t and are hasty, or anxious like most people to buy the IT accessory please watch the movie. NOT EASILY BROKEN is another fantastic one to watch! If after watching these movies, reading the word for today, and the biblical definition of marriage you don’t stop, think, pray and question MARRIAGE then you can proceed to the altar.


I have exhausted all the possible answers to the questions that everyone asks? When is it they say, when the Lord ordains it I say.
If you have any cheeky answers that work for you please feel free to send me an email with the details, some people need to be stoned with firm responses.
Marriage/Weddings are both common topics amongst many at the moment (note I haven’t categorised).
Where three or more women (both single/ courting & between the ages of 22-35 my calculation may be somewhat biased or inaccurate) are gathered marriage is definitely going to be discussed with much passion. Why? I hear some say (especially the men) well go figure!

There’s a big difference between marriage and weddings.
Marriage is priceless; weddings on the other hand are expensive especially when you want a lavish do.

I smiled to myself and said father are you testing me? If so I am ready because the word was very Apt! yesterday i was having a conversation with a friend about what else marriage. lol and boy did we talk about a lot of MARRIAGE FAUX PARS unfortunately i wont share sorry.

I continued to read the word and then paused. I got to a part where two couples where about to say their vows.

“You have the right to remain silent, anything you say may be held against you, you have the right to have an attorney present, you may kiss the bride."'

I instantly thought MARRIAGE equals PRISON! and then my smile suddenly disappeared!
I have heard about and read a few articles where people men in particular refer to marriage as a solitary confinement! Although I beg to defer andI say each to their own! If you put 5dollar in you get 5dollar back, if you invest your time, work hard at your marriage/relationships you'll reap the great rewards of your hard work. what you put in is what you get back out! it isn't rocket science. Garbage in Garbage out!
I continued reading the word this statement stood out

To know what your marriage rights are, you must understand that, first, marriage is God's idea.

Not yours, mine, your mothers, or fathers own idea, but Gods idea! So if God hasn’t ordained it and MR AND MRS AB&C have forced, talked you into it, etc

Please pray and seek Gods first, for they will not be in your marital home with you, we don’t want the divorce rate to keep soaring.

So I looked up the associated passage in the bible Ecclesiastes 9:9

New International Version - Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun— all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labour under the sun.

Amplified Bible - Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun--all the days of futility. For that is your portion in this life and in your work at which you toil under the sun.

New American Standard Bible - Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have laboured under the sun.

 The following stood out from reading the passage:

Enjoy life, live joyfully.

• Whom you love, Enjoy life with the woman whom you love.

• All the days of this meaningless life that God has given, all the days of your vain life, all the days of your fleeting life.

• For this is your lot in life, For that is your portion in this life, for this is your reward in life

Marriage is Gods idea!
if couples fully understand this why do people still get married for the wrong reasons? The only reason I could think of was mainly because they don’t! if you beg to defer please feel free to explain why.

The passage clearly says enjoy life, not live in unhappiness, reiteration of the word WITH THE WOMAN, WITH WHOM YOU LOVE. All the days of this meaningless life that God has given, all the days of your vain life, all the days of your fleeting life. (Ouch that scared me a little, could this be the reason why men get scared? I DON’T BLAME THEM) The scripture didn’t say live in pain, with the one you like, whenever you feel like or suits you.

Let’s analyse some vows

I take you to be my wedded wife/husband; with deepest joy I receive you into my life that together we may be one. As is Christ to His body, the church, so I will be to you a loving and faithful partner.

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part.

Okay hold up folks why would anyone want to say these vows before God and man knowing they would live a life contradictory to the vows? We can’t predict the future I hear you say? I’ll save this debate for another post.

I will share the passage from the word of today with you so you can understand the reason behind the atrocious prison like vow that gave me a fright earlier on.

Sonja Ely writes,
'I was watching my five-year-old granddaughter play with her toys. At one point she staged a wedding, first playing the role of the mother who assigned specific duties, and then suddenly becoming the bride with her "teddy bear" groom. She picked him up and said to the "minister" presiding; "Now you can read us our rights." Without missing a beat, she became the minister who said, "You have the right to remain silent, anything you say may be held against you, you have the right to have an attorney present, you may kiss the bride."' To know what your marriage rights are, you must understand that, first, marriage is God's idea. In Eden He said, '..."It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him"' (Genesis 2:18 NKJV).

The word 'comparable' means 'compatible with his (or her) needs'. When you marry someone, you marry everything they've been through. Each of you brings your own baggage. Unless you sort out what to keep and what to discard, things can quickly erode. You must also understand that when you leave God out, you have problems. Satan has made marriage one of his prime targets. He loves to promote strife.

When it comes to marriage we must learn to forgive, 'Lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices' (2 Corinthians 2:11 NKJV). God's plan for your relationship is strength and harmony, not strife and confusion. He wants to help you build a strong, loving union that glorifies Him. To do that, you must show grace, and resolve to make Jesus Lord of your relationship.

Marriage is forever, well it is supposed to be till death do you path right?
Wedding – is a ceremony that lasts a day, 5 days for some, and only a few hours for most.

All marriages are joined by God. However In some cases, one can be married to one and bound to another (Rom. 7: 3). Marriage does not necessarily imply there is a bond. Two eligible people must have the intent of the marriage commitment.

God ordained marriage is manifestly permanent (Gen. 1, 2). In alluding to and reinstating the original marriage law, Jesus said: "…what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Marriage is a choice, a decision that two people make before God to become one. I would love to hear you own opinions on the above topic please feel free to comment. These are based on my own thoughts and understanding of what I knew, know and just learnt.

Please comment as we all have different views and opinions! I would love to read your comments on the current IT trend MARRIAGE! i would urge the married folks to also elaborate as they would also have a totally diffrent view.

Thanking you all in advance

Thursday, 8 July 2010

B-Unique, B-D’vine!

Despite our busy schedule FollyKay managed to catch up with and interview B’dvine! Who is that I hear you say? B’dvine is a talented young lady, who’s always has had a passion for art and has successfully turned her passion and hobby  into a career.

Rules of wealth (ermm) #5: You can make money from your hobby! Whatever your hubby is, painting, talking, driving, walking dogs, designing, singing, playing the piano etc . Find something you’re passionate about, something you enjoy, and find a way to make money from it.

Dear readers,
What’s your definition of success? What does it mean to you and how do you measure success?

I would love to read all your wonderful definitions and opinions and may the lord grant us wisdom to understand and work towards being successful in every aspect life.

Many talk about being successful, but what is success?
I hear it all the time! Some folks want to have a successful career, some want successful relationships; some want successful businesses. But I rarely hear people talk about wanting a successful relationship with God. Many dream of success while others wake up and work hard at it. I believe that before you can become successful you have to understand what it is. In my honest opinion success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying.

I want to be successful in every aspect of life! I’ll be damned if I give up every time an obstacle is throw my way trying to prevent me from moving up. I have this quote glued to my PC at work “unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top”. Then I say to myself, FollyKay doesn’t do mediocre, she aims for the top and she will get to the top! In order to do what you love, you might have to do things you don't love as much, but as you look at the big picture, you'll love them because they're taking you where you want to go. -MCU

In a nutshell B’dvine Enterprises is a professional service and product provider in the UK. They currently specialise in bespoke wedding dresses and provide professional makeup services without the high end price tag. B’dvine recently launched a new line of cosmetics.

60 Sec Interview with the Founder & Director of B'dvine Enterprises

FollyKay – Thank you for taking the time to meet with the Glam squad and congratulations, your one year wedding anniversary is fast approaching.
B'dvine – Thank you for having me, and giving me this opportunity. It’s great to be here! Hard to believe that this time last year I was walking down the Aisle. To God be the Glory!

FollyKay – For those who don’t know, who is B'dvine, and how did u come up with the name?
B'dvine - B'dvine Enterprises is a professional service and product provider within the UK. We specialise in bespoke wedding dresses, cosmetics and professional makeup. At school my best friend came up with a sassy nickname B'dvine. B short for Bola and divine was just a name which she saw fit due to my character and virtue.

FollyKay - How and when did you start out in fashion design and bridal wear?
B'dvine - November 2008 to be precise! I had the gut feeling my boyfriend at the time was going to propose, so I started searching for the perfect dress. After sourcing through the internet, making contacts with bridal companies, attending bridal shows I was able to network and build a portfolio of contacts for myself. I can be very picky, and I knew if my boyfriend proposed the only thing that could stop us from getting married within a short space of time was my indecisiveness! So I decided to design my own dress. I didn't have the patience to try on many dresses and I am very in tune with my body shape, so I designed something that suited my figure. When my dress arrived I was overwhelmed with joy, from a mere sketch to this beautiful piece that was my inspiration! From there I figured I wanted to create bespoke dresses, for every bride at a reasonable price.

FollyKay - What’s your bridal wear signature style?
B'dvine - My Bridal wear signature style is contemporary with a twist of the clients taste or idea. We offer bespoke dresses, so it’s solely based on what client wants.

FollyKay - What and who motivated you to create the brand?
B'dvine - This may sound funny, but my husband motivated me a lot, he pushed and pushed and even showed me how to create a website. I would sit for hours in a day putting together the website. There are so many aspects of designing and although I liked drawing and sketching but I had to learn to sketch as a fashion designer. I knew I wasn't going to be Picasso or Banksy, but I motivated myself. God has also been my most determined motivator, he created an avenue and I walked through it.

FollyKay - What motivates you when it comes to designing? Where do you seek your inspiration/what inspires you?
B'dvine - When designing I look at the current trends, but most importantly I listen to clients requirements when they come and see me after all my aim is to please them. B'dvine is all about taking the idea from your head and putting it on paper, it’s about making your dream dress a reality. I have also been to a few fashion shows, and I get inspired by what I see on the runway. Fashion shows premiere the next season’s collections/Trends so I get to see what's out there and what will be out in the following season.

FollyKay - Can you provide a retail price guide for your bridal wear?
B'dvine - trying not to sound too technical it all depends on the requirements, Prices range from about £250 - £1500 or more for a wedding dress. Bridesmaid dresses range from £80-£200 or more again depending on the requirements.

FollyKay – You participated in the mahogany bridal show, how did that go and what did you learn from the show?
B'dvine – The Mahogany Bridal Show was fantastic; I mean it’s a great platform for anyone looking to get into the industry. I enjoyed myself, the models were great to work with and I tell you now, my collection was well spoken of! I connected with so many people, and built great networks. I met some really great people in the industry and would definitely participate in something similar or bigger in the future so watch this space.

FollyKay – Where can we see samples of your work and how can people contact you?
B'dvine – Visit the website www.bdvinebridal.com


FollyKay – Once again thank you for your time.
B'dvine – Thank you FollyKay and remember B-u2 da ful, B-unique, B'dvine!!

For more information or to book a consultation please visit our website

Wednesday, 7 July 2010

Think of Wealth & Become Wealthy

Good morning,
Firstly I want to use this opportunity to apologise for not posting a blog last week. To all who sent emails complaining, accept my sincere apology. So today, like every other day it’s all about inspiring you after all that’s one on the reasons I created this blog.

Someone asked me after my first post, (I don’t know if she was being cynical), did you create the blog out of boredom? If you asked FollyKay that question 5 years ago her answer would have been served with hot sauce intending to burn you. My response: When am bored I cook and shop! Writing is therapeutic and for all those who know me well it has always been a hobby, no a gift bestowed from God. (As always am digressing)

Without aspirations for a better existence you are going nowhere! Wake up! Get out of bed and do something extraordinary today towards achieving your goals!You can walk through, jump over and break down any obstacle in your way.
My motto: "Aspire to inspire before you expire"!
I don’t believe in magic, but I do believe that God helps those who help themselves! So stop procrastinating get up, get dressed and move!!
Firstly set goals- Realistic and achievable goals! Who am I kidding set yourself unrealistic goals too, just make sure you work extra hard to achieve them.

Do not be content with mediocre jobs, life, and people. Aim for the highest and work towards achieving it! Life is too short and time is money! It goes by so fast, we cannot control it, and unlike sky-plus we can’t pause, fast-forward or rewind it. Make the most of every second and make it worthwhile.
To succeed in anything in life you need a vision. if you cant see the forest through the trees, you need to chop them mother f***ers down - Diddy

FollyKay's Empire... What?! First rule of Wealth, Think Wealthy! Am just practising what i've learnt.
Have a blessed day all

Friday, 25 June 2010

Miss Mismatch

At 7am after hours of tossing and turning I finally got out of bed! I had barely slept thanks to this allergy called hay fever! I have tried everything, eye drops; nasal sprays, even lining my nose with Vaseline. Sounds grim I know but what’s a girl to do?! Especially on a sunny Saturday morning

In my last post I mentioned that I was going through a healthy eating/lifestyle phase! Thankfully it’s now a major part of my life believe it or not. And  in order to keep the momentum going I started running. I set myself daily and weekly targets; and work extremely hard to achieve them!

My Pedometer & new best friend!

FACT: 30,000 steps a day means you burn 1,500 calories in one day. Ditch the car more often and walk or run!

Good running shoes are required if you plan to start, below is the pair I got for myself not very glam, but it does the job.

One of many excuses not to run has been the "bad weather"  although the weather was awesome that day I certainly had no intentions of running mainly because the pollen count seemed to be increasing by the minute so I opted to take a long stroll in the afternoon.

That afternoon I walked to the underground tube station (Subway), and got on the train with the intention of getting off two stops away, then walking back home.

I sat down and before I could even start thinking of where to get off, I spotted her! There she was, sitting with a big smile on her face, chatting away with her friend/boyfriend/brother (not sure who he was). I tried hard not to stare at her in shock with my mouth open but I just couldn't help myself.
Talk about a mismatch fashion faux pas! OMG! Close your eyes and let me paint the picture!

An A-line pink chiffon floral dress, ( with green, yellow and pink floral prints) frills at the hemline. It reminded me of the type of dresses that our grandmothers stopped wearing after high school (I have seen pictures).

Dear readers please do not call or even think of  her esemble as a vintage piece! This dress lacked elegance!
Vintage is copied from its use in wine terminology, as a more elegant-seeming euphemism for "old" clothes. –Wikipedia

As if that wasn't bad enough, her skin-coloured tights were torn! I don’t think she knew it was and i was too scared to tell her. Miss mismatch had on on a beige blazer (it was a nasty shade of beige) which I personally think should be binned! Gold peep toe sandals, a white and black clutch bag and too much kabuki make up! Okay I have over exaggerated the makeup part, but she looked a hot mess! Fashion police hand her 50points and a free pass to see a personal image consultant at Enmarcha!

Colour clashing is fun and looks great when the right shades are put together, but it can also look tacky. Wearing one shade of beige from head to toe is way to mediocre and boring!  It’s okay to swtich things up to make an outfit look great but there’s a limit. A plain red play suit with a bright yellow belt and yellow flats works well. However her ensemble was all wrong! I find my self digressing alot, so am goning to go back to story.

Four stops later and she got off the train; I hope she doesn’t ruin the wedding pictures. I forgot to mention she was heading to a wedding.

I stayed on and typed away as I didn’t want to forget any of the details, I mean how one can forget a nigtmare. I had to capture all my thoughts while the image was still fresh in my mind but as we got closer to my destination, three ladies walked into the train and they made Miss mismatch look like a runway model. It was a mixture of badly sewn weaves, market stall clothes; and a hint of BO!

Ladies please believe me when I say weaves aren't meant for everyone. I know we can all afford to go crazy with the Brazilian, Aunty Funmi, Remi, Malaysian hair, etc.  Please find a good stylist. Weaves are supposed to blend in with your natural hair and look natural! Hide your tracks; don’t put them on display for the world to see; it’s just tacky! Most women I know take time out to ensure their hair looks good. Even when they are having a so called bad hair day they still look fabulous! Some people definitely do require help.

Ladies if you have weddings to attend please remember certain hairstyles, clothes and colours should be avoided! If in doubt get someone else’s opinion. Just because a particular dress fits Miss A, doesn’t mean Miss B will look good in it too. It isn't rocket science and we all know that, so do yourself a favour and ask somebody!
In the words of "Coco Chanel" a woman should be two things "Classy & Fabulous". Please don’t be a Miss Mismatch.

A Few Fab ideas..

FollyKay's Fab Picks

The Coast Samba dress, for a classy & sophisticated look.I highly recommend this piece.
Was £150 Now £75

This Notte by Marchesa's bow-embellished cobalt-blue silk-chiffon gown speaks for itself! it is a breathtaking choice for your next big event.  Also is available in black. FollyKay's Favourite.

The One shoulder trend is big this season & are a must-have for the spring and summer seasons
Blake Lively looked stunnin in this Marchesa fall 2010 peacock draped chiffon strapless dress which she wore to the 2010 Met Costume Institute Gala. Compared to the Versace gown she wore last year this Marchesa peacock dress is a showstopper! Thumbs up! FollyKay's Favourite

I think i am officially in love with the Marchesa 2010 Collection. I would love to meet Georgina Chapman and Keren Craig, the brains and beauty behind the Elegant brand Marchesa.

I hope by sharing, i have inspired you ladies! if ever in in doubt please contact FollyKay for her honest advise and opinion.

Thank you for all the love, support and comments.



Tuesday, 15 June 2010

Insight into the mind of FollyKay

Folly-Kay, the first in every way!

 The first child, first grandchild; (well only applies to one side of the family), the first girl; and an honourable member of the first zodiac sign! (Aries). As a natural born leader, my goal is to lead and inspire! We ariens strive to be the first and it’s not a coincidence that am the 1st in every way. I’ve always known that I was special! Thank you lord!

The main reason for creating this blog? Ermmm I’ll have to get back to you on this, as am still figuring it out. The truth is I needed a larger platform to dump my thoughts and ideas. so i have decided to freestyle & see how it goes. If that doesnt work then i'll......

My motto (well one of many) if you fail to achieve a goal, think you can’t, or wont, don’t change your goals but change your approach to achieving those goals! Works every time! so if my freestyle approach doesnt work then i'll have to change my approach.

If you want to succeed, you must banish negativity from your life! on that note:

Dear reader if you are a pessimist, knowingly or unknowingly, & your goal in life is to bring others down, criticise, etc you get the gist as long as your job title doesn’t include ”Critic” I urge you to close this page, & walk away! Thank you very much for your co-operation.

If at this point you are still reading then I guess I’ve achieved my FIRST goal which is to get your attention and keep you on my page! HA!

Okay time for a quick workout & yes i am currently going through a fitness & healthy eating phase. I hope & pray that i can keep this up. Thanks to eightsandweights.blogspot.com for helping to keep the momentum.